7 Things I Hated About My Obesity

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I often post positive aspects about weight loss because I know that staying positive is an important part of successful weight loss. After all, if you don’t believe you can do it or that the effort is worth it, you will probably have problems finishing your journey.

However, I do think it’s important to come to terms with why you want to lose weight in the first place. I tried for a solid decade to lose weight and get healthy to no avail. During that time I alternated between trying to accept my obesity and hating everything about being 300 pounds.

There was that point where I realized I had to make a change. In making that decision, I confronted all the things I hated about being obese as well as dreaming about how losing weight would change the course of my life. Making a mental and written list of the frustrations of being obese was a good thing for me.

I often thought about the things I hated about being obese when I felt weak during my weight loss effort. I thought about it when I wanted to quit. And I thought about it when I wanted to pig out at McDonald’s. I know I’m not alone because a lot of people I work with find remembering why they hate being obese to be a reason to keep going.

Here are just eight of my reasons for turning my back on obesity. I wonder if your list is similar to mine. . .

1. The Clothes

Diane Carbonell Before Pictures Plaid JumperThis picture is a classic for me. Jumper, t-shirt, and not much style. Other very bad clothes included stretch knit pants, oversized men’s t-shirts, and old jumpers I wore long past their prime.

2. Feeling Self Conscious About My Weight

When I was obese, there weren’t that many other obese people in my social circles. I was almost always the biggest person in the room and I felt very self conscious about that. It was hard walking into a room and feeling everyone else size me up – and not in a good way.

3. Not Fitting In

airplane seats are too small

One of the worst feelings was not fitting into airline seats, restaurant booths, and even cars. I hated that part of being obese.

4. Feeling Tired All the Time

How to get the motivation to get off the couch

I was tired all the time even when I had no reason to be. I sat on the couch a lot, I avoided physical activity whenever possible, and complained a lot about how hard everything was for me. I’m sure John got tired of hearing it because I sure got tired of saying it.

5. Feeling Out of Control with Food

I felt completely out of control when it came to food. I would eat huge amounts of fast food, lots and lots of sweets, and large portions of whatever food was in front of me. At the end of each evening I’d lay in bed thinking about how badly I had done and swear to myself that I would do better the next morning. That never happened.

6. Being Asked When I Was Due

Diane Carbonell Pink Dress

I cannot even tell you how many times people asked me when I was due when I was not pregnant. It got to the point where I just went along with it to avoid embarrassing both of us. I, like many other obese women, carried a lot of weight in my abdomen and I can understand why people thought I was pregnant. That didn’t mean it hurt any less though.

7. Avoiding Having My Picture Taken

film camera

I still don’t like having my picture taken, but when I was 300 pounds, I got mad at John whenever he took my picture. I hated looking at them after getting them back from the developer and hated how I looked. Part of the reason I hated how I looked in pictures was because the pictures didn’t lie. I missed out on documenting some important times of my life because of my aversion to having my photo taken.

Listing what frustrates you about your weight may not be pleasant, but it can help you remember why you are working so hard to get those excess pounds off.

Do you have a list of what frustrates you about being overweight? Does remembering those reasons keep you motivated? Diane


  1. says

    I can definitely relate to this list. I was always the biggest one of my friends but usually not the biggest person in the room when we were out. I was thankful for that and in my head would say “at least there’s someone here who’s bigger than I am.” It was sad. I recently just had one of my best friends ask me if I had a picture of us together so she could put it up on her new desk at work and I don’t. She’s been my closest friend for years and I don’t have a picture of us because I’m too embarrassed to have my picture taken. I also have had patients ask me if I was expecting and when I would say no the most common response was “oh, so you’re just fat?” It was mortifying, but I’m down nearly 30 pounds with 50 to go and nobody has asked me if I’m pregnant since about 20 pounds ago.

    Also, thank you for posting this. I’ve been focusing so much on all the positive reasons I’m on this journey, better health, more energy, longer life, less self consciousness. But I agree, I think it’s important to look at the negatives and say this is what I’m doing to turn my negatives into positives.
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  2. Karen says

    I want to thank you for your posts. So many of them are thought provoking. It also reminds me that even though there are so many of us fighting obesity underneath we all have the same feelings and experiences.
    I have been struggling for the last few weeks with feeling hungry all the time and reading your posts have made me refocus on why I am getting healthy.
    I’m down 52 pounds with another 50 to go.
    Thanks for being so real!

  3. says

    YES—all seven times! I hated being obese so so so much, and I need to remember how awful it was and how much I hated it as I fight this battle to get off the 15 pounds I gained over Christmas. I’m down about 10 from my highest, however, so that is good. I keep a before picture on the front of my fridge to help, but I hardly notice it anymore. There are just too many awful things about being obese to ever go back there again. Thanks for the reminder!
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  4. Mandy Cat says

    As unflattering as the clothes in these pictures were, at least you were decently covered. I recently spent a day in a hospital waiting room while a family member was undergoing treatment. Every third woman there was overweight and of those half were wearing skin tight and/or revealing outfits. What on earth was that woman with the 50 inch hips enclosed in zebra-stripe leggings THINKING?????

  5. Mary says

    I have gained 50 lbs and am overwhelmed at the journey of taking it off. I have no energy, and rarely want to keep my exercises because it’s so hard to do at this weight. The blogs really help me, but I need to stay positive and on track. Thank you for the encouragement. Please pray for me. This is such a difficult journey. I want to remember it once I get the weight OFF, so that I don’t put this weight back on under any circumstance.

    • JP says

      Yes! I also felt like others perceived me as less intelligent and motivated, like I had to try harder to show people I was smart and capable. Maybe it’s because, in a lot of cartoons and comedies, fat characters are often buffoons.

  6. says

    The thing I most regret when I was overweight was saddling my husband with a wife full of self doubt and loathing. I now have confidence and that spills out over every aspect of our life…that alone makes it 100% worthwhile!

  7. says

    Great list. The one about pictures really resonates with me. On my blog I did a series of posts giving my weight story (still in progress). I looked through a lot of photos to do the post. It was really shocking how few pictures we have of me compared to everyone else in the family. And, the main reason is because of how much I hate to have my photograph taken and how much I usually hate the photos taken.

    I also feel self conscious and think that people are always thinking I’m fat. Maybe they really don’t or they don’t care, but it does bother me.
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  8. Maria says

    Yes, I wrote a whole list of why I didn’t like being overweight and why it limited me from doing things. It was a struggle to write it all down because all the emotions came with it, but now that it’s ‘out there’ I feel better, clear and aware of those reasons on a daily basis. Thanks for the post.

  9. says

    Your list and mine are almost identical. And yes, I find it is very helpful to look at old pictures and go over my reasons my finally changing. When I’m having a bad day and it feels like I’m making zero progress or even going backwards that focuses me faster than anything.
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