Fake It ‘Till You Make It

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Years ago, when John and I were newly married, we were attending a young marrieds Sunday School class at church. The teacher said, “When you are annoyed with your spouse, sometimes you have to make a decision to love the person even if you don’t feel the love that minute.”

Weight loss is much the same way. There are times when you are frustrated with your weight loss plan, annoyed at the scale, and want to walk away from the whole thing.

That’s when you have to decide to “Fake It ‘Till You Make It.” You’ve got to decide to do what works even if you aren’t feeling it anymore. That’s not always easy, but it almost always works.

Think about it. If you are not “into” you weight loss effort anymore and just give up, what’s going to happen? You are going to regain any weight you lost. However, if you are not “into” your weight loss effort and keep on trying until you get your mojo back, what’s going to happen? You are probably going to start losing weight again and find your inner motivation.

When you are in the position of having to reach down and just keep going, there are some strategies you can try to help you stay on your plan and not let frustration overwhelm you. These are strategies I used when I was in the process of losing 150 pounds. After all, it took me 14 months to lose all that weight, and there were a lot of days when I just wanted to quit.

I’m so glad that I didn’t quit and instead learned to “Fake It ‘Till I Made It.”

Here’s how you can “Fake It ‘Till You Make It.”

1. Remind Yourself Why You Are Doing This

Why are you doing this in the first place? Do you want to get out of the Plus Sized clothing department? Are you tired of feeling tired? Has your doctor asked you to lose weight? Whatever your reasons, write them down on a Post-It-Note and stick it to your mirror. Look at them everyday as an incentive to keep going.

2. Revamp Meal Planning

A lot of times when you are feeling discouraged you have let some of those good habits you might have had in the beginning slip a little bit. Revamp your meal planning strategies and take the time to find some new recipes you may enjoy.

3. Find a Friend

Find a friend who can be a support for you in exercise and eating. This really helped me because although I often walked by myself, I did have some friends who I talked about healthy eating with and occasionally exercised with.

4. Don’t Put Off Life

Don’t feel as though you have to wait until you reach a certain weight to start doing some of the things you’ve always wanted to do. Just start doing them. Sign up for that hike, go on a trip you’ve always wanted to go on, buy an outfit for yourself, or move forward in a new relationship. Don’t let life stop because you are trying to lose weight. Keep your motivation up in other areas of your life so your weight loss motivation doesn’t set the tone for the rest of your life.

5. Ditch Perfection

So you messed up. So what? Just start again and keep going until you start feeling more positive about controlling your food intake. It’s not about perfection, but about perseverance.

Faking it ’till you make it really does work. And not only does it work, but it is important in your weight loss journey. Sometimes it’s not about feeling positive but about making the decision to do what you need to do to work through the times when you just aren’t feeling it.

What do you do when you just don’t feel like continuing? Any tips to share? Diane


  1. says

    Thank you for this post! This is exactly what I needed to hear this morning as a quick “pick-me-up” to start this week off right! For me, I think the biggest thing is always to go back to basics – for some reason I try to bend my own rules and then am “surprised” when it doesn’t work, so going back to my original plan and sticking to it (whether I feel like it or not) is the best way for me to get refocused and back on track. Thanks again for sharing!
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  2. 135 Gone says

    I know that if I can get through the first three days, it’s all good. I’ve lost weight so many times, I know this about me!

    So if others can step back and look at what happened or when it happened (or both), figuring out the derailments in the past will arm them for this new endeavor.

  3. says

    I remember being SO amped up after I initially lost weight (back in 2006 … it was quick and easy that time). I stayed pretty motivated for a few years, then struggled a bit. And the exercise alone wasn’t keeping the weight down, it was creeping up despite staying quite active. I did feel that “give up” feeling, but had at least made exercise such a routine part of my life that I kept on with that, even though I didn’t really feel like it. It often wasn’t the best exercise sessions, but at least they were still there and I’m sure it at least kept my weight in check.

    The eating is STILL a huge challenge, I’m at least trying to get the tracking to be as routine as the exercise, and continue working toward making better food choices … I’ve been “back” to being motivated for almost a year now, and hope to keep up the energy as I’m close to goal, but not quite there yet!
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  4. says

    Thanks, Diane. Sometimes I just one other person to say, “Keep going. You’re doing great. So you messed up, big deal! Don’t let “that” define you.” I say this to others all the time, but sometimes I need to have it said to me. I know I’m not the only woman who understands feelings can be untrustworthy narrators, but when they are screaming in your ear, man, its hard to hear anything else. Move on, Keep lookin’ Up, Fake it ’til you make it–these messages all amount to the same thing for me–don’t give up on you!

  5. says

    Very sound advice! It goes to the mental aspect of weight loss – or for that matter, any challenge in life – if you don’t have your head in the right place, it’s not going to work!
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  6. says

    These are fantastic tips! There were so many times throughout my husband’s weight loss that we both felt like giving up. It is that consistency over time that will eventually result in major weight loss. I like the concept of “fake it till you make it”. It goes well with our favorite saying (that we borrowed from Dory), sometimes you’ve got to “Just Keep Swimming, Just Keep Swimming”.
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