If I Had Not Lost 150 Pounds

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As everyone knows, yesterday was Mother’s Day. And if you know my story, you know that I have seven children.

What some of you may not know is that I lost my weight after the birth of my third child. Here’s a picture of me soon after his birth. I know this isn’t the best picture, but it’s where I was. And you will notice that I have arranged all three children in front of me to try and appear smaller.

With three of the kids.
With three of the kids.

After his birth, I got serious about my weight loss after being overweight for a decade. In 14 months I lost 158 pounds.

A couple years after I reached my goal weight, I got pregnant and had my second son. Over the next several years, I had my third, fourth, and fifth son.

Mother's Day 2014

Here I am yesterday with all seven of the kids.

You know something? I look at pictures like this one and wonder what my life would be like if I had not lost 150 pounds.

Would I have had the fourth child, the fifth, the sixth or the seventh? Probably not. I remember my OB/GYN telling me when I was pregnant with my first son (at 300+ pounds) that I was lucky my weight hadn’t affected my fertility or caused me major pregnancy complications. I believed him because I had known overweight friends whose weight did seem to negatively affect their fertility. I worried throughout the whole pregnancy that my weight would harm the baby or that my weight would cause problems during the delivery. Fortunately, nothing bad happened.

When I look at current pictures, I am forever grateful that I was able to finally lose the weight and even more grateful that I have kept it off for 16 years. There are so many things I would not have done if I hadn’t lost all the weight.

I might not have had a larger family, I probably never would have attempted to run a 5K, definitely would not have started this blog or written my book, and I’m certain my self-esteem would have been lower than low after 26 years of obesity.

While you can’t ever predict the future and don’t have ultimate control over what happens to you, there are some things within your control. Your weight is one of those things that you can change for the better or for the worse.

And like it or not, being overweight or morbidly obese as I was, impacts different aspects of your life. It affects your activity level, your health, your emotions, your self-esteem, your social relationships, and even your choice of clothes.

If you ever wonder whether losing weight is worth the effort, try imagining what your live will look like if 1) you do lose weight and 2) if you do not lose weight.

It’s an exercise that I still perform sometimes. I wonder if I would celebrate Mother’s Day in the same way I did today if I hadn’t lose the weight. When I am standing in line to run a  5K, I have a sudden vision of how different life would be if I were still 300+ pounds. There  are even times when I’m cooking a healthy meal for the family and flashback on times when I used to think a good dinner was McDonald’s hamburgers.

Losing weight is not easy. Losing 150 pounds changed the direction of my life in a positive way.

Do you ever think about how your life may be different if you get to your weight loss goal? And if you are there now – how has your life changed? Diane


  1. JackieDee says

    It’s important to make the point, as you did, that our weight IS within our control. There are way too many people, in both the blog world and real life, who use the excuse that “this is what my body wants to weigh and there is nothing I can do about it.” I used it myself and used to tell myself, “I’m not meant to be a size 4.” Well, guess what? NO ONE is meant to be a size 18, 20, or 22. And after a year of eating correctly (for nutrition) and exercising daily, I WAS a size four instead of an 18. And eight years later I still am a size four, because I kept eating for nutrition and exercising daily. Of COURSE we can ALWAYS change our weight FOR THE BETTER, and I’m not talking about starving, being stick-thin, 0r obsessive, but putting in the effort and making the real changes that make a real difference in our HEALTH, and the weight correction follows naturally.

  2. says

    Well, first things first: Happy Mother’s Day! (Because 7 kids, seriously, hats off to you! Between my two, the dogs and other pets, I’m fried!)

    As far as thinking what life would be like obese vs not, I just want to be healthy. I actually don’t want to envision what life would be like thinner, because it’s a trap (one that when you are at goal weight, you wonder why things aren’t better if you haven’t been changing your life at the same time as your dress size. So, I focus on my life and being healthy, and whatnot.) But the opposite? Oh, absolutely! I remember what it felt like to be obese, and I know I wouldn’t have run a marathon like I did, I wouldn’t exercise like I do now, lots of things. It’s a good reminder to keep moving forward! :)
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  3. says

    You know, I can’t say that I ever do think about what my life would be like if I hadn’t lost the weight. I suppose that’s a good thing! :)

    “While you can’t ever predict the future and don’t have ultimate control over what happens to you, there are some things within your control. Your weight is one of those things that you can change for the better or for the worse.”

    What a great testimony!!
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  4. says

    Yesterday I was able to say no to the buffet and enjoy a measured and correctly portioned meal On Mother’s Day. I had my mom with me and she did the same. It would not have been possible for either of us to eat so well five years ago. We both would have gone for the bigger, greasier, heavier meal. We’ve changed, both in our thinking and in our eating. I’m blessed to have a mom who helps me to see myself healthy every day. Your children are equally blessed. Happy Mother’s Day, Diane!
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  5. says

    I think about my life, had I not lost 170 lbs., quite often. I wonder if I would still be able to walk without assistance (cane, walker, wheelchair)? I did a radio interview about a year ago, and the DJ even suggested I might not be alive today if not for my weight loss. WOW! The fear of death did motivate me to lose weight, along with the fear of losing my mobility. I lost my mom and maternal grandmother in their early to mid 60’s from sudden heart events. Neither of them was heavy like I was, but still I worried, as I am 63 years old today. I have already outlived my grandmother.
    Yesterday we went out to eat for Mother’s Day. I have a terrible habit in restaurants–I find a heavy set older woman and she motivates me to pick something healthy to eat from the menu. The person I choose is unaware that they are providing me with motivation to stay healthy, so I hope it’s not such a mean thing. A very heavy woman was sitting directly across from me, and I watched her several time, she was eating heartily, and when she got up to leave, she used a cane. And I thought, “There, but for the grace of GOD, (and a lot of work on my part,) GO I!”
    Later, we went to the play, “Wicked,” and I know I would not have been able to walk the more than two blocks away that we had to park, nor walk up the flights of stairs to our nosebleed seats, and definitely would not have been able to fit into the small seats in the very old but classically beautiful theater. I used to dread going to events that were held in old buildings, because I knew the seats would be narrower, since the population has gotten so much larger in recent years. So even if I could handle getting to my seat, sitting in it for several hours would be very uncomfortable. I simply would not have gone to “Wicked.” I missed out on so much for so any years. That, too, is motivation to keep the weight off.
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  6. says

    I often wonder what my life would be like had I not lost 100 pounds. I know that the extra weight effected my joints. I think I’m paying for that now…
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  7. Mandy Cat says

    Slightly off topic here but something that really struck me in yesterday’s paper. Apparently Americans are getting so much heavier that being strong as a horse isn’t enough any more. Trail riding operations, the ones who take tourists on guided tours, have had to add draft horses, like Percherons and Belgians, to their stables. The 225 pound weight limit that normal saddle horses can safely carry meant they were having to turn away too many customers.

    What next?

  8. says

    I wonder what would have happened if I hadn’t lose weight and stayed as inactive as I was.

    Maybe I wouldn’t be around to write this; I strongly suspect I was on course for a heart attack.

  9. Tina George says

    Hi Diane this is great, hope you are doing better and great. Losing weight is a great relief when working on it gives better results and it keeps on challenging needing more dedication

  10. Asiana Abdel-Gadir says

    I lost 60 lbs right before my senior year in high school. I think about how my life would be if i hadnt lost weight all the time. If I didnt i would still be depressed and would have never done any of the senior activities i had a blast doing this year. I am so grateful that i had that sudden change of will power.

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