It is so important that you have a great support system while trying to get to a healthier weight and stay there.
Here’s a picture of my supportive husband John and I yesterday on Father’s Day, and John with all the kids.
John never made me feel terrible or ugly when I weighed 305 lbs., but rather tried his best to make me feel like I was attractive. I remember him encouraging me to try on new clothes when we went shopping, and encouraging me whenever I tried another fruitless attempt at dieting.
Looking back, I don’t think I appreciated that as much as I could have. In retrospect, I had enough bad feelings about myself that no matter what he said – I didn’t really take it to heart. In my mind I’d think, “Oh, he doesn’t really mean that. I am a fat cow.” That’s what I’d think, and it probably showed in my facial expressions.
When I started that last, final diet -he was supportive as he always had been. Only that last time he actually had something to cheer about. You see, with the other diets, I had never lost enough weight for anyone to cheer me on. That final time though – John could tell I was losing weight and encouraged me in several ways.
He didn’t bring me candy – ever.
He validated my new cooking techniques by trying the new foods and seeming to enjoy them.
He made me feel better about my journey when others were trying to discourage me.
He went with me when I shopped for new clothes and helped me find well-fitting, flattering clothes.
I don’t know if you feel this way, but a good support system can be so helpful because this journey isn’t an easy one. People who have never struggled with their weight may not completely understand the intricacies involved in the mental and physical weight loss process, but people who care for you can still offer you support and encouragement.
I found that having John was enough, but I’ve known a lot of people who like to surround themselves with a wide group of people as support. Either way is good, and the main thing is that you have people in your life that you can count on to help you over those inevitable humps that come along the way.
Do you have one person as a support system, or a group of supportive friends? Diane
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