Sometimes the weight loss journey seems endless. I know it did for me. Whether I was at the point early in my marriage where I had gained 35 pounds, or later on, when I had gained 150 pounds, the goal seemed just as far away. And although the 150 pound goal was father away, my perception didn’t change. I’d felt like I’d never get there.
Do you feel that way sometimes? All your weekly hard work results in such small losses on the scale that it is tempting to give up and have some ice cream. Exercising for 3 days in a row should cause us to lose at least something!
For me, the problem was expectations. In my daily life, I expected that when I did something I would see results. For example, when I worked full time and made calls, those calls resulted in action – not stagnation.
As you are traveling your weight loss road, I’d encourage you to think of your goal weight as the starting point, not the ending point. Reaching my goal started me on a new journey that has been filled with wonderful experiences I may have missed at 300 pounds. Thinking of your goal weight as the starting point of your new life journey may make you think differently about the weight loss process. The weight loss journey can be long or short, depending on your goals and objectives. My journey into obesity took 10 years, and although I had great times and memories along the way, those obese years were difficult.
As you lose weight, try hard to remember there is life after weight loss. What will that life look like? Will you go back to old eating habits and regain your weight? Will you start a new career, begin a family or like me, have more children? Will there be things you will participate in that you don’t feel comfortable doing now? If so, what? For me, I wanted to be able to:
- play with my kids easily
- go swimming
- ride a bike
- roller blade
- not get stuck in chairs
- fasten seat belts without an extender
- ride amusement park rides
- not be tired all the time
- bring down my blood pressure
- shop in the regular sized clothing stores
- be able to easily shave my legs and tie my shoes
- put on tights without ripping them
If you don’t think of your ending goal weight as your new starting point, you might forget about the point of weight loss. The goal of all this hard work is to enable you to enjoy life more, not less. To be more healthy, not less, and to get to a weight where you feel comfortable in your own skin. Once I reached my goal weight, I finally understood that I had a second chance at the healthy, active life I had missed out on by being overweight for so many years. I felt free to enjoy life in a way that was new for me.
I’d encourage you to not get so caught up in the journey that you forget what your own personal goal is. For me the goal was to live my life in a healthier way – not just due to the elusive “perfect” number on the scale, but rather due to the new me!
What are some of your goals for yourself when you start on your new life journey? Diane